Saying ' I do'

"Con ogni respiro che prendo......"

It has been about 5 months since I last saw my beloved and right now I miss him so much I wish I had another way that i can let go of this 'missing' flu...sigh~

But what I want to write about today is not an excuse from this feelings..it just came to thought for awhile, to be precise since at about a month ago...while i was talking to the tea-lady...

Lets skip the fact of the person you want to marry....

And let me tell you about marriage from what I saw.....

What you need to know is marriage is not a fairy tale....

Everybody dreams of a happy marriage but few want to think of how they can have a happy and perfect marriage...

Surrounding by married people makes you think so much that your not sure how to make a big step, and you know by that time your not as ready as you thought you are...

Ive seen a nice man that is so good with other fellow co-workers but not as loyal to his wife...How can that be? How come a person that you can respect so much...can be so ignorant with his wife...Just because his wife is not as beautiful as she used to be...She's sick and cant be pretty again...And besides being supportive was left doing the housework and child care while the husband went out with somebody else....

Is being pretty and sexy is so important in this era of marriages?

Ive seen a women who went into marriage after only dating for only 6 months with the guy just so she can get out of her house as soon as possible...It turns out her in-laws doesnt like her much and oppose the marriage.....She end up having 2 children as well as gotten beat up by the husband...She filed for a divorce after 8 years of marriage...

Does longer dating is enough to get to know a person?

Ive seen a gentleman loving his daughter very much...taking his wife here and there....but keeps chatting at the internet with who-know-who girls nearly everyday with another women....

Is loyalty not a question for these days?

They say when your in love, everthing seems beautiful and gay....

"I've loved you forever
In lifetimes before
And I promise you never
Will you hurt anymore
I give you my word
I give you my heart
This is a battle we've won
And with this vow
Forever has now begun..... "

Well...some marriages did gave me a sigh of relief~ ;)

Ive seen parents who treat each other very lovingly and treat thier teen children as friends...They live a happy life from what i see....(I'd like that someday...)

There also husbands that still calls their wife 'Sayang' without feeling ashamed and gives attention when they speak..:) I can see that he's a very attentive husband and father....I respect them so much....

Not to forget of the wives that work hard for her family everyday in the office and still manage to go back home and making her children attached to her....

I know every person is different...

They change for various reasons...

But what makes it different is the purpose and the cause...

Like they always say, it takes two to tango...

If there's no contact, no communication, no understanding...

If you only think about yourself , doing whatever you think is right without thinking how it affects your loved one....

If you cant sacrifice, why move on?

"I'm looking back on things I've done
I never wanna play the same old part
Keep you in the dark
Now let me show you the shape of my heart"

All i can say right now;

Cherish what you have right now...

Take what you need instead of what you want because you only need 90% of what you need than 10% what to want...

Dont espect too much because nobodys perfect,try to talk heart to heart and find a solution...

Always have the blessings of your parents...its a powerful tool for a long lasting relationship...

Always pray to God for guidance...because you'll never know what the future holds....

Even of what I wrote, I still planned to get married... :) We'll never know our chances and what will happen but we'll never know what adventure it'll bring...if it doesnt end well, its still not the end of the world for God is always with you whenever you go...

"Coz I believe that destiny
Is out of our control
And you'll never live until you love
With all your heart and soul. "

" In sickness and health,

For better or worst...

I do..."